Smiles!

The most novel yet deceptive expression even to be seen on a human face - SMILE! Yes, its true! But the context I am referring to here, today, is regarding the expression of pure happiness, the one that emerges after a long period from one's heart! That was the expression today on the four faces that chatted for a long time in a mall.

Few days ago, the plan was simply to meet up, comprising just two people, to discuss certain topics for an upcoming not-so-precious examination. But as we are good students (:P :D), we decided to take every aspect seriously. The venue was debated upon, the timing was fixed.

Few moments later, both had a certain wish in their minds - to call up whoever was available on that day to simply have a good time (as we knew how much we will study ;) :D). So the calls were made, text messages were sent. It was denial from every corner, and with that, we decided to stick to the studying part. Thus went the days and came the day of study! Right from the start, surprises loaded the day. The first was a sudden approval of the invitation. Immediate action was to alter the venue and timing a bit. Next I had to a friend, who also was invited, for a certain help. I don't know why, but I decided to knock at her door once again relating the evening plan! And Voila! It was accepted. Maybe it was the sentimental tone of my voice, or maybe her own wish, but who the hell cares! She came! And so did everybody!

Next, the slight discussions about the exam took place in an awfully swift manner. Next followed the hastiness to the venue. Fun on the way, fun all over the place! This was followed by the excitement and blabbering of all of us, maybe an expression to say "I missed you" or maybe just an overreaction to happiness! But whatever it was, its was there load and clear! The place's decibel meter went high and so did the fun and frolic. But we could see it all, each on either one of our faces : the SMILE. And trust me guys, it was truly awesome! :) :) :)

The Fun of Unplanned Actions! :) :D

We all like to do things in different ways. Some like to plan things ahead, move according to a schedule and finally go for the execution of the thoughts. Others decide on the spot, trying to live life on a wilder side! True that planning does make us more sophisticated and disciplined, but wtf, where's the fun and frolic associated with it?? Where;s the hype and the tension, before the action and the relief we get after the thing is done??

Everyone has seen the movie "The Dark Knight"! In one of the scenes, the Joker tries to sway Harvey Dent into Two-Face by arousing his passion against corruption and crime in a mind-twisting manner, by simply relaying the facts! One line that touched me was : "If I blew up a truck load of soldiers and had announced it before in the media, next day, when the explosion takes place, no one would panic as it was PART OF THE PLAN!" Okay, now I am no antisocial minded guy, but the thing I am highlighting here this aspect of split second decisions, plans, etc.

Yesterday, a part of our gang had a blast in a local exotic pub! The prices were high, but we had taken our own earnings to spend and as such, it was not a big burden on the hearts! But yes, we did decide to limit ourselves to slight drinks, maybe two pegs or less, but not more! But I ended up enjoying 3 pegs of scotch and five shots of tequila! One of my friend ended up having two pegs whiskey, a margaritta and one tequila! Others simple followed! It was a bit over the board, but hell did we enjoy! After last night, when we talked about the events, every moment was laughable! Of course, the feeling of seeing and being with each other after such a long time did matter, but the part of hastyness did matter too! Quite significantly! :D

All I am trying to say is that I am that sort of a guy who makes decisions on a split-second basis. I may come prepared and ready, but I will never fluctuate just before the action! That's me. Most of the times, these moments have served me well in one way or the other, but yes, some were equally bad! But whatsoever, the thing is, if you plan something ahead, be ready for instant changes! If you want to do something now, next moment you may want to do something better, so be prepared! Depending on the seriousness of the decision, try to alert your mind about the fluctuations if you are prone to those! Most importantly, live these moments, not later or loath over them afterwards! This is what really counts! :)

"My God! You guys are Crazy!!!"

Ok, let me clear the air out! The title is not regarding any person, but these are the exact words that came out of the mouth of a very special person in my life! It was an act of excitement blended with tinges of happiness and awe! :)

So, I and one of my friends plan up a certain act for today! Knowing it was the election day, but wtf...its for our sweet little friend yaar! So we went with forward with it! The actual reason of this surprise visit is to congratulate her brother for his outstanding result in the Secondary Exams! But beneath it was hidden a fact that we simply wanted to see her smile once again, as it had been ages since we got a glimpse of her! :D So, coming back, we went to her place, kept her busy on the phone so that she will not close her eyes for an afternoon nap and then it took place! The Surprise! We called her to her balcony, as if there a network problem on the phone, and then the eye to eye contact did the entire trick! She was glad, gleeful, joyous and most importantly happy to see us after so many days, just the way we were feeling and started coming down to open the door for us screaming the "title" ;) :D

But wait! All is not so easy to achieve! Let me remind you that today is Sunday! So her dad was enjoying a nice HBO movie when we rang the bell! So he came out with a stern look! Not knowing well who we were, he asked our purpose and name and we introduced ourselves in a bit shaky manner! It was fun to expect this kind of a reaction but believe me, it was a trembling one as well! But later, when her daughter introduced us properly, he recognized immediately and we engaged in an Indian custom of touching his feet! He was glad, we were more glad! :D :D

The day smoothened thereon! We gifted her brother and congratulated him! We was happy! We chatted for hours, in her room, on her terrace and it was pure fun! Then we were greeted by the delicious dishes made my her mom and I guess, I was more glad with just the aroma! We had fun! We chatted, flirted, leg-pulled each other, and at the end! It was a merry "goodbye" to sign the energetic day off! It was worth the time!

But what I truly want to mention here is that it was not simply her smile or the food which her mother prepared for us....but it was the feeling of just getting her glimpse once again! The smile is obvious (I mean, c'on...we are good friends for the past 3 years!), but what was playing in my mind was that I knew, that after so many days of monotonous studying in her home, maybe for a few moments, we were able to make her mind free! Especially as her exams are near, I think she needed that! We have spent a lot of time together on numerous accounts! But today was something different! Maybe it was me! O maybe it was simply the situation! But whatever be the reason, the aftermath feeling on both sides is something that was worth taking the hot and humid toll on the streets on a Kolkata-Election Day! :D :D Wishing her all the luck in the world for her upcoming examinations! And yes, I don't know whether she will read this blog or not, but I want to mention something over here! I remember that on a similar such event a few months back, she had made a request before me! I think that was fulfilled today and now the rest is up to her! Right dear? :) :)

Remembering the Old Days....

Last time I had seen him, it was three months ago! There childish looks, slight gnawing on the toys and immense display of energy via kicking legs and throwing hands! Yes, there was one thing that caught my eye! It was his big, round, intolerably cute black eyes! It rolled here and there, as if looking or searching for someone, as if the lens held numerous information and communication skills but it seemed that the age did not permit the tongue to be in the right command! Out came my friend, holding a toy and immediately, the eyes became vague watery, more diametric and filled with joy! It was as if the eyes looked out for her only! Well, this is the incident that I had noticed when I first met this new born! He is my friend's elder sister's son! I just gazed at their bond and for a moment, got lost in the memories with my own little brother!

Yesterday, I met him for the second time! He was fiddling in his new toy car! He had grown a lot and the first reaction he gave me was a bit of a recognizing look! Yes, he had recognized me! The minute I took him in my arms it felt as though my own brother was back in his toddler days! I still remember the times when it was under my responsibility to look after him and feed him during the evenings, when my Mom was out for some work! I did that religiously, as if that was the most important thing in the world, and let me tell you, it truly was! I still remember the time when he used to cry and stop the minute I was in front of him! That innocent giggle, that selfless and pious look was to mesmerizing to remember any of the duties! I used to stand and gaze on him! But after his hunger was out of control, he diligently reminded me of my work by starting to cry once again! Those were the really cute days that I miss!

The thing I want to point out here is that this kind of a relationship, a brother-brother, a brother sister or any other combination is truly pure like it had never been! Just look out during the recent times! Yes, we do have fights, certain ego problems, certain attitude problems, but one thing is damn sure! At the end of the day, it always is that I look out to check his well being, and he looks up upon me to check I'm there or not! This is the moment that I enjoy the most! Even though I'm in my twenties and he's in his teens, this relation has been untouched, and I truly pray to God to keep it so!

There are times when we want our brothers or sisters out of the room or company. Sometimes for selfish reasons,and others for their own good! But do remember one thing! Never take your younger sibling for granted! Ever! They are bound to follow you in every aspect and so, if you want respect, teach them to do so by respecting them! If you want them to be able, set an example by doing so yourself! If you just want a smile on their faces, do the things that are bound to bring one, but remember! Do not spoil them! At times, we need to act tough! It looks as if the elders are heartless, and simply dominating the younger ones, but when I act tough with my brother, only I know how it feels! It feels terrible!

I decided to write this with not any intention to send a message out to you, or to enhance my writing skills, but just because today morning, I felt like jotting down this incident of my trip down the memory lane! I love my brother very very much! And I love that toddler very much for reminding this incident back to me! God Bless him!

Hope I Do Good

This one is regarding a certain thing that I am doing on my mom's request! Rather, I would say helping out someone to be able to achieve something in his life. My housemaid's son in currently in his high school days. He's got brains but not the atmosphere of education. He's got moral support, but lacks financial support! So when my maid asked mom about helping him out with his studies, mom asked me to do it! Now I love teaching! I enjoy it very very much and thus I agreed!

But to be honest with you, I had got into a duel with my mom over this issue as I knew I wouldn't be getting anything in return! I was used to the more practical mode of tutions - go, teach and get paid! (I mean, come on. I have things of my own to do, and even though I love teaching, I so expect something in return) So, my mom insisted and I had to succumb as she had given her word! This was me about a month ago. But now, I regret over my actions as I recollect all these! The reason is as follows!

The first day, this boy comes to my home and we sit down to go ahead! I take out a book and start explaining him all the related topics and aspects of that chapter and he listens intently! After the half hour session, he speaks for the first time. He asks me a doubt about a certain topic, and mind you...the question was very very apt and to the point! This attitude struck me and left me mesmerized for a few moments as I did not expect this from a boy his age! I gladly explained! He left and I kept thinking about this! The next day he comes, I learn that he didn't even touch the assignments that I had given him to complete! I was a bit angry, but I waited for the reason to fall on my ears! He told me that his mom returned late and so he had to wait till her return at his neighbour's house. Next day, he had school early and he dozed off! Genuine, but still I had expected him to give more effort!

A week later, he turns up again, as scheduled. This time, he had completed the work and stormed me with doubts. First I thought that did i guide him properly? But leaving that thought to a corner, I learned that he literally pondered over the matter that was taught to him and and had gone deep. Now this was something that I was seeing for the first time in my life. I mean come on, even I wasn't so sincere. That session ended after an hour or so and on that day, I realised something very humourous!

All these years, I was teaching numerous grades and they responded well. But I was happy only on my pay day (no laughs or sulks here, please! It's just human nature). But after that day, I truly got to realise that my claim of loving to teach was true! I felt very humble yet proud to have taught this boy. However, this feeling drowned in another mixed feeling of self-sulkness over the fact that the thing which my mother had realised was good took me such a long time to realise! God! I had even fought with her to avoid the boy! I guess that's the reason why mothers are mothers. But coming back to the topic, what I want to convey here is the fact that we do a lot of things in life which we love or which excite us to the supreme! But have we ever, on our own, given a thought about doing that same stuff with the same dedication, for FREE??? I don't about you, but before this, I definitely did not!

We all have talents and we love them! We love the fact more that we can sell them and try for that desperately. But have we ever shared it for free? Not for self gains but to help others? Not for financial stability but solely for self satisfaction? I think that maximum of us, especially of our generation, thinks in such a manner! Try it! If you think that doing a certain job makes you happy, heres the golden test - just do it for free! Do it with full dedication, but zero expectation! Then you can really justify your claim! I just learned this the hard way! Hope you can do it better!

Now, the present scenario is that I look forward to teaching this boy whenever I get time! Even though I can be dead tired, but I know that doing this will make me feel good about myself! Moreover, what I truly hope for is to do him good! That's my real aim as of now!

Watching a Friend Grow!

Okay....first of all, let me clear it out that there's no need to go overboard with ideas in your mind while taking a glimpse of the title. Its not a literal meaning, rather a metaphor! Yes, it is! This is just another experience which has taught me something in life that I want to share with everyone reading this!

Disclaimer : No Names have been mentioned (so please don't panic). No events have been cited (so others don't panic).

I remember an incident that took place about 2 years ago, back during the freshers age. This one evening, one of my friends state about an appointment which she was supposed to attend! Now at this point, let me just tell you that this "she" is one of my closest buddies (knowing quite a lot of secrets about me) and that she's already in a profession right now! But back at that time, the friendship was not so developed, but it was worth a mention! She had a problem of visiting the office alone so she asked me to escort her. I gladly agreed! The meeting was about her then-budding career in which she was very determined, and I respect this aspect about anybody! Now, she doesn't know this but I had some very important work of my own which needed dire attention that evening! Still I went ahead! Naturally, the meeting got delayed and overshooted my allowance time and as a result, I had to postpone my appointment and I returned home at about 11:30 that night! But I was happy to help her out! :)

After two lovely years to friendship, a lot of things had changed. There were awesome fights, duels but one thing remained unaffected : the trust and care! So today, another such situation had arrived before me just a few hours back! But now, her career was on a roll! She had worked hard and was now in an established position! Anyways, I accepted to help her out! I went ahead to go with her, again as a trusted aide. But what she doesn't know is that I had to again postpone certain things in order to help her out! But that's not the issue here! In todays meeting, she got a chance of her lifetime! This chance could well establish a firm foundation in her career, acting as the first crucial brick! She was happy and excited! And me? I was overjoyed! :) :)

What I am saying here is that I have simple watched her grow, professionally, in front of my eyes! I have nothing to do with her career, nothing to gain, nothing to lose and most importantly, I have no contributions! Its just her trust on me and the smile that breaks onto her face that makes me feel elated! It just that slight emotion of anxiety on her forehead that makes me care for her! It just those compliments that other seniors give her that makes me proud of her! Yes, its true! I just enjoy the emotions and the moments of having been there with her from the start!
I couldn't say all these to her on her face as it would make her teem with happiness and knowing her, she may start to cry! Lemme remind you, I cannot see her cry! I couldn't say all these to her, before, as I had a fear that it would have made her a bit vain and, maybe, would have affected her actions! But after 2 whole years, seeing her progress, I have no fear of expressing myself in front of her now!

With this, I would just like to thank her for allowing me to savor these moments in my memory and for her rock-hard trust on me! I don't whether I can make it up to her, but I would definitely try to be get closer! Best of luck for the upcoming days dear! Hope you get every lovely opportunity in the future! And yes! TREAT!!! :D :D :D

Time Out!

So...after quite a hiatus and hectic months, I guess I'm back to doing what I enjoy doing the most - writing! :)

These days, the feeling and atmosphere is very very pathetic. We have completed our exams and are now slogging away at training/project institutes while the other half of our friends are busy with long hours on the study table as they have their exams near sight! It is truly pathetic because for us because we are scattered here and there, with bleak chances to group up and have fun. But for those who are readily available are busy studying and hence, the moral is that the mornings go very hectic while the much anticipated evenings slog too much to fly by! But hey, its only a matter of a few days, so I am personally looking forward to it!

Why am I writing on such a lame topic? It's because I have duly reached my institute on time but my Professor, my mentor of the month, my project guide is yet to show his face at the reception! What to do? Nothing. Just wait.....wait....wait...wa...u get the point right? ;) Thank God that SINP has a very very lovable, cosy and most importantly, an air-conditioned (:D) library with free net access! So this is where I am at present doing this instead of fiddling with the chemicals in the lab!

But what I really feel while writing for this kinda topic is that hey...this too is a kind of time out for me! Okay, I am getting it even before the start of my day! But it still is! I have decided to relax, surf the net a bit....log on to facebook and try new applications and most importantly, write a few lines. I could have done numerous other things! There's this hot chick in the institute, who's right now laughing her time away at the canteen. I could have been with her. I could have taken a puff and a cup of tea! But I think this is what is giving me the current boost in the energy while at leisure!

Think about it! Sometimes we seem to run out of action with hell lot of time in hand. Sometimes, it just the opposite! So like, what to do? Manage time well and all that crap? I think NOT! I believe that leisure time is something that deserves attention to what we love doing the most, without taking much stress and stuff! Don't you think so? I mean, some people are born couch-potatoes! They love their hours in front of the idiot box! Some simple love to cuddle back into bed! Others may enjoy a game outside and so on and on and on......

But what the point is that whatever we do, we should enjoy it and after the event is over, the thought of having wasted your time on that should not come into play! What's the use of such a livingness then? Moreover, we often are guided as to do this in your free time, do that, manage this and that and so on and on... But I say bunk them out of your eardrums! Just follow your heart! That's the true way to enjoy life at a position where we all are today! So next time you have ample time in hand and you prefer to sleep it away, you being a sleep-a-holic, do not regret! Just be cool! Look at me! I am writing a blog at my project center simply waiting for my professor to come and dictate his instructions on me! I am cool and chilling out! Do it! You'll need it! Especially in this kinda heat!

I Have A Feeling....

After 4 poems...I decided to write in phrase this time, rather than in rhyme! The topic is nothing to be speculated about, or to make guesses about...it's simply an expression of certain things that play in my mind and about my current mental state!

They say that it's divine to loved, even more austere to be loved and most importantly, simply heaven-like to be in love! HARD and HEAVY words, I must say. But more than being a common notion, these lines mean something in my own life! Its been quite sometime since I'm rediscovering certain aspects within myself, which earlier I had thought to be inexistent! Simply speaking...I have a feeling! Its a feeling to be cherished, to be proud of, to be enjoyed and most importantly, it's something that is to be respected! What's that feeling? Well....this is a public forum....so no direct answers!

Other than all these, there is something that has been bothering me! It is the effect of "mixed-feelings"! I mean, most of the time, when our minds and hearts clash against one another, we do something which we repent upon later! On the personal front, I have experienced this too many a times and finally (ultimately, phew :D), I have come to a conclusion that though my feeling matters a lot to me, the one and only thing I should look out for is not to execute it at all times....but to propagate it by varies mean! Frankly speaking, some things are not meant to be enjoyed but rather are meant to be shared! Believe me, its true!

Whenever I see certain things occurring in the opposite direction to me expectations...I get weird feelings! But hey, if I see that the person involved is happy and is enjoying, I stay back and watch her smile. My mind tells me to take control...but my heart prompts me to just watch the smile and be happy. Strange, but yes! This is the way! Whenever I see that there is a chance of someone else stepping easily into my shoes, I get nervous, anxious and sometimes egoistic! But that's momentary! I just look at the mental calmness and serenity of the person involved and watch her happiness, which in turn makes me smile! Strange, but yes! It is true...

All I'm trying to say is that feelings are to be shared and cherished, not meant to be hidden and shy away from! If you have something going on in your heart...speak it aloud! Let everyone know! So, what if it doesn't turn out the way it should have....at least there's some purity in your feeling, rt? Just enjoy and lets things move as they are.

There In Lies My Dream!

To be able to charm myriad friends as well as foes,
On the murky road towards El-Dorado.
To be able to bring on their faces, a gentle smile,
Devoid of anguish or thoughts that are vile.
To be able to accomplish my goal with dignity,
Trying to upgrade my modesty and sanctity, simultaneously.
To those quite erratic and bigoted, strange it may seem,
But there in lies my dream!

To be of immense help to those with gratitude,
Whilst solacing myself with chastity and attitude,
To serve back with complete ardor and generosity,
Trying to pep-up all without any kind of calumny.
To be able to live and let live, non-parsimoniously,
Trying to establish my very own dune, in the vast desert of history.
Some may applaud, others may beam,
But to be true, there in lies my dream!

To acquire curio tastes and tang,
To be able to kick off anything, with a louder then ever bang!
To be able to maintain standards, that leaves others agape,
Yet try to remain simple, plain at heart: in perfect shape!
To be able to move with the times ahead and near,
Yet to be involved with the past, without any shame or fear.
All in all, I would like to say,
That whatever be my action, thought or sway,
To be a true human being, who with honor, will teem,
There in lies my true dream!!!

I'm Not Afar...

(This is ode to my mom....remembering the days and the time when I was away from her)

Gazing up at the star-lit sky & journeying down the memory lane,
I feel your presence everywhere, right from the frosty winds, to the sun and rain,
Thinking that you are away…
I go a bit nervous, I must say,
But let me tell you mom, that though there maybe a distance bar,
From you, I was never afar…

The shackles of daily life, as you may know…
Frequently takes me to my physical low,
The vanity of people around me,
Often makes me sarcastic about everyone, as you may see,
But let me tell you mom that this is the fact,
Remembering the values you taught me, I try to stay intact.

The eerie nights which I spend awake,
Be it for my commitments, or for my academic’s sake,
The calmness and the night so lone…
Makes me remind myself about our duels and my harsh tone,
But let me tell you mom that when I look back,
I always see myself wrong, my mind in the ignorant sack,
But I assure you that you have always been kind and true…
So I have to admit, if there’s someone for me always, it has to be only YOU!

So, mom, all in all…
Your love for me has been always been tall.
I know that your affection is beyond bounds, without mar…
Though I may be away….but I’m not afar!

Dear Friend...

This is just to let you know,
That there is someone, somewhere in this world; definitely not a foe.
A being to pat your back in times of cheers
And also to wipe away, in times of anguish, your tears.
A person on whom you can, blindfolded, rely,
With whom you can share your dark shades, no need to feel shy,
This is just to let you know that whatever be the stance, joy or despair,
I will always be there!

Times will come when we may, away from each other, sway,
But let me inform you that prejudice and eschew will never grow, come what may.
Times will come when we may, in our thoughts and actions, differ,
But respect and benevolence amongst us will never suffer.
Times will also come when we may, each other, taunt and rag,
But believe me; never will deportment come when fun turns into shag!
This is just to let you know that whatever be our stance, meant to give, take or share,
I will always be there!

Strange it may seem that someone, in despondency, will care,
But I would take palliative measures for you, only to be fair.
Strange it may seem that someone, during festered times, will stand by,
My friend, agape you will be to learn that I will; with a fillip touch without a sigh!
Strange it may seem that someone, with misanthropes, can act so graciously,
Well, gregarious I am then, magnanimous as well, but I will try and reach you deep within, non-apprehensively.
This to let you know that whatever be your stance, showing attitude or care,
I will always be there!

So dear friend, to conclude,
May I suggest we move on beyond our petty feuds?
Towards a world, more disparate, congeal and fair,
Don’t jitter, come hold my hand and commence, because I will always be there,
Without any vituperation and fear, enter my lambent friendship lair,
Just remember, come what may, for you I will always be there!

A Journey Worth Taking!!!

I am writing this one for you,
Because I want you to know that you are among the ones very few,
Who have put to light, a definition of friendship quite anew!
With a formal start,
To an intimacy as sweet as a tart,
We steadied forward a level so pure,
That it will just prosper from here, never degrade, that’s for sure!
So with this, I must let you know, to be honest, without jesting,
That a few moments of amity in life with you, is truly a journey worth taking!

There were times when I had something to say,
And you, like a patient being, were all ears,
There were times when anxiety loomed and I was at bay,
And you, like an honest pal, used to wipe it out with a smear.
There were times when I felt deserted, without a way,
You always comforted and guided me, making me fight my fears.
There were times when I had argued irrationally, without a chance for you to say,
But you always prevented me from swaying, like a true dear!
We have, in our friendship, seen it all,
Be it the ups…or the relenting downfalls.
But I just want you to know, to be honest, without jesting,
These moments of amity in life with you, is truly a journey worth taking!

Together we’ll laugh, together we’ll cry,
Together we’ll succeed, together we’ll try,
Together we’ll reap, together we’ll sow,
Together we’ll celebrate, together we’ll comfort when either one is low,
Dear friend, this is to let you know…
That our friendship will never end, it will steadily grow.
Whatever be our stance, meant to give, take, or share,
Be it caring or tough, be it of joy or despair,
Come what may, I will always be there!
And to be honest, without jesting,
A friendship like ours, with you…is a truly journey worth taking!

Ich Liebe Dich!

The first and the foremost thing that will come into one's mind upon reading the title is that "What the hell does it mean?". Well, I won't blame them, but its just that I want to exercise certain German linguistic skills, which I have recently acquired. Literally, the line means : I LOVE YOU in German. The line is not at all uncommon in our lives. I mean, every person has used this some or the other time in their youth (or even old age :D). Some might have used it once, twice, others might also have practiced saying it quite a number of times. But hey, I am not indulging into discussing a particular person's love life (neither am I doing so for mine), but I am intending to do so on a general basis.

I LOVE YOU! The line can mean practically anything. By dictionary terms, it connects to expression of affection to somebody who holds a special place in our hearts! But in modern days, this line has lost its true inner meaning. I mean don't you think so? Whenever we feel like saying this to somebody, that somebody has to be a girl/boy who we expect to be our love-relation-partner! But can't we say this to our parents? Can't we say it to our sibling? Or even our teachers? Of course we can! We even do so! But one question: can't we say this to our (opposite sex) friend??? Here lies the whole confusion!

We all have certain emotions attached with our friends! We meet "n" number of people, but we become close with a few. Even out of that, we become true friends with a special few. But if that friend is an opposite sex being, and you are already engaged to someone...and well...u utter this line for that friend (under certain circumstances)....u can guess what's in store for you! I won't blame anyone, but isn't it worth a thought that we ought to change our views regarding this matter. If I, being a boy, say the line to a girl, who's a very close friend of mine, does it mean that I am proposing her? I believe friendship emanates from small instances and verbal quotes like this! If you mean that he/she is truly a lovable friend, why do we have to re-phrase the line as "I love you....as a friend" ??? We can, definitely! But say a friend has done something for you, which was out of expectation, self-less mannered and aimed solely for your happiness and if we say this line, why is it that at first the words seem a bit shocking?

The topic is quite controversial (socially, but don't you think that we, being in a society as yours, where later on...owing to time paucity, we may not even have a chance of meeting and spending quality time with old buddies, these certain things live on in your minds for us to cherish? We this is definitely so! As far as relationships are concerned, I thinks lovers understand each other too well to react on petty issues like this (I hope this line is agreeable to all).

So, after almost 4 paragraphs, one may think why the heck is the title in German then? There's no German in this entire blog! Well, guys, my blog...so its my way! And most importantly, I do not know German so much so to write an entire blog in that language, I mean c'on...am still learning yaar! :D. But on a serious note, I just want to convey one thing from this piece of writing! If you criously feel for a friend (not that kind of feeling ;) ), say it! What's the harm? Believe me, that friend will be proud that he/she has someone so caring as a friend! If you really consider a person to be one of your closest alibi, just say it! There's a guarantee that there will be no confusion! One one thing will prevail in the aftermath.....rather not prevail, but will enhance...and that is the essence which we all cherish in our lives : Friendship and Care. Or in other words : Freundschaft und Pflege (in German)!! :D :P ;)

Do I "EXPECT" Something? Yes!!!

Okay, let me clear the air first and foremost. The topic is not at all related to love relations and that sort. Infact, its on another aspect of friendship...a very elementary yet a pretty much disclaimed aspect : EXPECTATIONS!

Expectations...the very first sound of this word rings a hypocritical bell in our minds which, though aware of the existence of the silliest of all expectations we keep from others, tells us not to admit it. Why? Well, this is where the irony lies. In order to keep up with the present generation-friendship, the dialogue "I don't expect anything from my friends!" is quite verbal regaring almost everybody. Why we do it? The answer varies from person to person, but the overall conception is that we behave as if we are complete self-centred and that nothing in this entire world can affect us! I wish this was true, but I guess it is not.

Friendship is a feeling that is to be enjoyed, shared and lived. There are times in our lives when we meet somebody with whom the intimacy clicks on from the very moment. This phenomenon can even take time, but at the end, it all boils down to one universal law - True friendship is like gold. If pure, it will glitter. If its an imitation, it rusts away! But here, I am not highlighting the friendship definition aspect, but solely certain feelings, rather side-effects, associated!

True friends care, console, confront, respect and at the very same time hurt the most. But have you ever given it a thought that is we are "supposed" to be so naive and self-centered, how can anybody even affect us to a scratch? Strange, but this is where the existence of "Expectations" get proved! We often hear that one must never keep expectations in order to stay happy always. Theoretically, its possible to the extremity. But practically, at the Human level, this is not at all possible. I mean, think it for a second guys. What good a friend is if you cannot claim certain things regarding that person? I am not talking about traits and characteristics but simply certain actions which is obvious in a relation like this. I mean imagine, you have a close friend. But you do not expect anything from him/her, regarding any matter! Strange, isn't it?

People claiming non-expectancy behaviour may claim so under certain circumstances. But deep down, everybody knows what they want. This is where the entire irony lies! People forget that this is not a give-n-take scheme but simple a mutual understanding where things do happen on accord, but certain aspects are understood! We all maybe aware of the prior part, but it is the latter we overlook. In our entire lifetime, we meet a hell lotta people. But out of them, a handful get picked as close, caring and faithful friends. If we even cannot fulfill their tiniest of all expectancies, what's of use of claiming such a friendship?

The entire reason for writing this blog was that I needed to express myself. I feel that this topic is quite closely associated with my own life, in certain aspects, but hey, no hard grudges. Its just a mode of expression (I mean c'on, we are the citizens of the largest democracy). You may agree, or disagree with my perception (comments always welcome), but I thought that this thing is mainly responsible for fall-out between friends, which is quite bad. All I have to say is that be honest to your friend. If you cannot fulfill an expectation, say it. If you have certain expectation, admit it! The closeness simply gets aggravated, and not embarrassment. Believe me, try it! It helps a lot (personal experience you see :D)

Its Time We Claim Some RESPECT!!!

Okay...my first blog of the year and I didn't wanted it to be with a negative topic, but it's seriously high time. High time we claimed respect for what we really are and mean to the world!

You all are aware of the recent...well wait! It's not recent, rather it's a prolonged episode! Anyways, we all know how Indian's (to be specific) are being tortured in Australia. Till now, there were cases of stabbing, injuries et all, but no life-loss, but during the recent days this phenomenon ( as I would like to call it) seems to have broken all barriers with its first victim! The aftermath, as we all see it, involves the two national police struggling over evidence and reports and the usual...the Governmental "talks"! But what the heck people, a life is lost and most importantly, a valued life!

Since we all know time began, migrations are an part of any nations existence. There are some countries in the world whose sole GDP depends on the population and quality of expatriates. I am able to confirm this because my dad is an NRI, but hey, whatever be the situation...it is the culture and mindset of any Indian to respect and honour the rules and regulations of any particular nation they go into. And is this the return we get for our simplicity?

I, being a student, can understand the pain n emotions attached with an opportunity to go abroad and study. I am not talking about settlement over there, as I am not personally in favour of that, but given the international platform of education, its really a life-time opportunity to go abroad and get skilled and exceptional exposure to a high level of education. From my childhood, I was taught that intellectuals all across the globe speak only a single language : talent and intelligence! But it seems this fact is really to good to be true! But it seems the age old classification of the globe into "certain" worlds still has a far-reaching influence on the minds of people. This is really sad. I mean we are talking about the modern age...where liberalization and most importantly globalization play an unnoticeable role of global integrity and economic development and this is how we repay others? Well...it may be an in-acceptable fact for others but this is true ( to the very core of the words) : Indians are to stay and rule!!!

I mean, be it the USA, the UK, the Middle East or any other part of the world, Indians are a part of their population...working population to be precise! The fact is that they gain from their knowledge and expertise. One can look into it in this manner as to the Gift of India to the World economy! But hey, its time man....time that if we are not treated with the respect we should be getting...its time we retaliate and claim it! I mean...comparing on the global scale...we are termed the Third World Country! But just give it a thought! Are we not socially superior to them? Are we not intellectually sane to not repeat with their counterparts in our nations....the way they do? All in all..can we say we are above them in all humane grounds?

But personally, I think we are at par! I believe the earth in a connected network wherein we humans can outgrow anything....provided we act in unison! I know this may sound a bit too "filmy" but hey, its my thinking and my blog and ours is a democratic nation! All I am trying to say is that we Indians have an ancestral quality to give and share and respect! Now this is a trait which is to be looked out for and valued....not tortured on racial basis! N F**K racism! This is the 21st century...and 2010! Isn't it time that we all looked out towards more ethical values...than to ponder over the lame ones that were solely formulated to manipulate the position of World Powers? It's High time!

Non-Indians reading this blog try to understand and rectify! Indians reading this blog...please try to comfort the anguished families with a little prayer! That's all that's needed!