The first and the foremost thing that will come into one's mind upon reading the title is that "What the hell does it mean?". Well, I won't blame them, but its just that I want to exercise certain German linguistic skills, which I have recently acquired. Literally, the line means : I LOVE YOU in German. The line is not at all uncommon in our lives. I mean, every person has used this some or the other time in their youth (or even old age :D). Some might have used it once, twice, others might also have practiced saying it quite a number of times. But hey, I am not indulging into discussing a particular person's love life (neither am I doing so for mine), but I am intending to do so on a general basis.
I LOVE YOU! The line can mean practically anything. By dictionary terms, it connects to expression of affection to somebody who holds a special place in our hearts! But in modern days, this line has lost its true inner meaning. I mean don't you think so? Whenever we feel like saying this to somebody, that somebody has to be a girl/boy who we expect to be our love-relation-partner! But can't we say this to our parents? Can't we say it to our sibling? Or even our teachers? Of course we can! We even do so! But one question: can't we say this to our (opposite sex) friend??? Here lies the whole confusion!
We all have certain emotions attached with our friends! We meet "n" number of people, but we become close with a few. Even out of that, we become true friends with a special few. But if that friend is an opposite sex being, and you are already engaged to someone...and well...u utter this line for that friend (under certain circumstances)....u can guess what's in store for you! I won't blame anyone, but isn't it worth a thought that we ought to change our views regarding this matter. If I, being a boy, say the line to a girl, who's a very close friend of mine, does it mean that I am proposing her? I believe friendship emanates from small instances and verbal quotes like this! If you mean that he/she is truly a lovable friend, why do we have to re-phrase the line as "I love you....as a friend" ??? We can, definitely! But say a friend has done something for you, which was out of expectation, self-less mannered and aimed solely for your happiness and if we say this line, why is it that at first the words seem a bit shocking?
The topic is quite controversial (socially, but don't you think that we, being in a society as yours, where later on...owing to time paucity, we may not even have a chance of meeting and spending quality time with old buddies, these certain things live on in your minds for us to cherish? We this is definitely so! As far as relationships are concerned, I thinks lovers understand each other too well to react on petty issues like this (I hope this line is agreeable to all).
So, after almost 4 paragraphs, one may think why the heck is the title in German then? There's no German in this entire blog! Well, guys, my blog...so its my way! And most importantly, I do not know German so much so to write an entire blog in that language, I mean c'on...am still learning yaar! :D. But on a serious note, I just want to convey one thing from this piece of writing! If you criously feel for a friend (not that kind of feeling ;) ), say it! What's the harm? Believe me, that friend will be proud that he/she has someone so caring as a friend! If you really consider a person to be one of your closest alibi, just say it! There's a guarantee that there will be no confusion! One one thing will prevail in the aftermath.....rather not prevail, but will enhance...and that is the essence which we all cherish in our lives : Friendship and Care. Or in other words : Freundschaft und Pflege (in German)!! :D :P ;)
Sunday, January 31, 2010
Saturday, January 30, 2010
Do I "EXPECT" Something? Yes!!!
Okay, let me clear the air first and foremost. The topic is not at all related to love relations and that sort. Infact, its on another aspect of friendship...a very elementary yet a pretty much disclaimed aspect : EXPECTATIONS!
Expectations...the very first sound of this word rings a hypocritical bell in our minds which, though aware of the existence of the silliest of all expectations we keep from others, tells us not to admit it. Why? Well, this is where the irony lies. In order to keep up with the present generation-friendship, the dialogue "I don't expect anything from my friends!" is quite verbal regaring almost everybody. Why we do it? The answer varies from person to person, but the overall conception is that we behave as if we are complete self-centred and that nothing in this entire world can affect us! I wish this was true, but I guess it is not.
Friendship is a feeling that is to be enjoyed, shared and lived. There are times in our lives when we meet somebody with whom the intimacy clicks on from the very moment. This phenomenon can even take time, but at the end, it all boils down to one universal law - True friendship is like gold. If pure, it will glitter. If its an imitation, it rusts away! But here, I am not highlighting the friendship definition aspect, but solely certain feelings, rather side-effects, associated!
True friends care, console, confront, respect and at the very same time hurt the most. But have you ever given it a thought that is we are "supposed" to be so naive and self-centered, how can anybody even affect us to a scratch? Strange, but this is where the existence of "Expectations" get proved! We often hear that one must never keep expectations in order to stay happy always. Theoretically, its possible to the extremity. But practically, at the Human level, this is not at all possible. I mean, think it for a second guys. What good a friend is if you cannot claim certain things regarding that person? I am not talking about traits and characteristics but simply certain actions which is obvious in a relation like this. I mean imagine, you have a close friend. But you do not expect anything from him/her, regarding any matter! Strange, isn't it?
People claiming non-expectancy behaviour may claim so under certain circumstances. But deep down, everybody knows what they want. This is where the entire irony lies! People forget that this is not a give-n-take scheme but simple a mutual understanding where things do happen on accord, but certain aspects are understood! We all maybe aware of the prior part, but it is the latter we overlook. In our entire lifetime, we meet a hell lotta people. But out of them, a handful get picked as close, caring and faithful friends. If we even cannot fulfill their tiniest of all expectancies, what's of use of claiming such a friendship?
The entire reason for writing this blog was that I needed to express myself. I feel that this topic is quite closely associated with my own life, in certain aspects, but hey, no hard grudges. Its just a mode of expression (I mean c'on, we are the citizens of the largest democracy). You may agree, or disagree with my perception (comments always welcome), but I thought that this thing is mainly responsible for fall-out between friends, which is quite bad. All I have to say is that be honest to your friend. If you cannot fulfill an expectation, say it. If you have certain expectation, admit it! The closeness simply gets aggravated, and not embarrassment. Believe me, try it! It helps a lot (personal experience you see :D)
Expectations...the very first sound of this word rings a hypocritical bell in our minds which, though aware of the existence of the silliest of all expectations we keep from others, tells us not to admit it. Why? Well, this is where the irony lies. In order to keep up with the present generation-friendship, the dialogue "I don't expect anything from my friends!" is quite verbal regaring almost everybody. Why we do it? The answer varies from person to person, but the overall conception is that we behave as if we are complete self-centred and that nothing in this entire world can affect us! I wish this was true, but I guess it is not.
Friendship is a feeling that is to be enjoyed, shared and lived. There are times in our lives when we meet somebody with whom the intimacy clicks on from the very moment. This phenomenon can even take time, but at the end, it all boils down to one universal law - True friendship is like gold. If pure, it will glitter. If its an imitation, it rusts away! But here, I am not highlighting the friendship definition aspect, but solely certain feelings, rather side-effects, associated!
True friends care, console, confront, respect and at the very same time hurt the most. But have you ever given it a thought that is we are "supposed" to be so naive and self-centered, how can anybody even affect us to a scratch? Strange, but this is where the existence of "Expectations" get proved! We often hear that one must never keep expectations in order to stay happy always. Theoretically, its possible to the extremity. But practically, at the Human level, this is not at all possible. I mean, think it for a second guys. What good a friend is if you cannot claim certain things regarding that person? I am not talking about traits and characteristics but simply certain actions which is obvious in a relation like this. I mean imagine, you have a close friend. But you do not expect anything from him/her, regarding any matter! Strange, isn't it?
People claiming non-expectancy behaviour may claim so under certain circumstances. But deep down, everybody knows what they want. This is where the entire irony lies! People forget that this is not a give-n-take scheme but simple a mutual understanding where things do happen on accord, but certain aspects are understood! We all maybe aware of the prior part, but it is the latter we overlook. In our entire lifetime, we meet a hell lotta people. But out of them, a handful get picked as close, caring and faithful friends. If we even cannot fulfill their tiniest of all expectancies, what's of use of claiming such a friendship?
The entire reason for writing this blog was that I needed to express myself. I feel that this topic is quite closely associated with my own life, in certain aspects, but hey, no hard grudges. Its just a mode of expression (I mean c'on, we are the citizens of the largest democracy). You may agree, or disagree with my perception (comments always welcome), but I thought that this thing is mainly responsible for fall-out between friends, which is quite bad. All I have to say is that be honest to your friend. If you cannot fulfill an expectation, say it. If you have certain expectation, admit it! The closeness simply gets aggravated, and not embarrassment. Believe me, try it! It helps a lot (personal experience you see :D)
Monday, January 4, 2010
Its Time We Claim Some RESPECT!!!
Okay...my first blog of the year and I didn't wanted it to be with a negative topic, but it's seriously high time. High time we claimed respect for what we really are and mean to the world!
You all are aware of the recent...well wait! It's not recent, rather it's a prolonged episode! Anyways, we all know how Indian's (to be specific) are being tortured in Australia. Till now, there were cases of stabbing, injuries et all, but no life-loss, but during the recent days this phenomenon ( as I would like to call it) seems to have broken all barriers with its first victim! The aftermath, as we all see it, involves the two national police struggling over evidence and reports and the usual...the Governmental "talks"! But what the heck people, a life is lost and most importantly, a valued life!
Since we all know time began, migrations are an part of any nations existence. There are some countries in the world whose sole GDP depends on the population and quality of expatriates. I am able to confirm this because my dad is an NRI, but hey, whatever be the situation...it is the culture and mindset of any Indian to respect and honour the rules and regulations of any particular nation they go into. And is this the return we get for our simplicity?
I, being a student, can understand the pain n emotions attached with an opportunity to go abroad and study. I am not talking about settlement over there, as I am not personally in favour of that, but given the international platform of education, its really a life-time opportunity to go abroad and get skilled and exceptional exposure to a high level of education. From my childhood, I was taught that intellectuals all across the globe speak only a single language : talent and intelligence! But it seems this fact is really to good to be true! But it seems the age old classification of the globe into "certain" worlds still has a far-reaching influence on the minds of people. This is really sad. I mean we are talking about the modern age...where liberalization and most importantly globalization play an unnoticeable role of global integrity and economic development and this is how we repay others? Well...it may be an in-acceptable fact for others but this is true ( to the very core of the words) : Indians are to stay and rule!!!
I mean, be it the USA, the UK, the Middle East or any other part of the world, Indians are a part of their population...working population to be precise! The fact is that they gain from their knowledge and expertise. One can look into it in this manner as to the Gift of India to the World economy! But hey, its time man....time that if we are not treated with the respect we should be getting...its time we retaliate and claim it! I mean...comparing on the global scale...we are termed the Third World Country! But just give it a thought! Are we not socially superior to them? Are we not intellectually sane to not repeat with their counterparts in our nations....the way they do? All in all..can we say we are above them in all humane grounds?
But personally, I think we are at par! I believe the earth in a connected network wherein we humans can outgrow anything....provided we act in unison! I know this may sound a bit too "filmy" but hey, its my thinking and my blog and ours is a democratic nation! All I am trying to say is that we Indians have an ancestral quality to give and share and respect! Now this is a trait which is to be looked out for and valued....not tortured on racial basis! N F**K racism! This is the 21st century...and 2010! Isn't it time that we all looked out towards more ethical values...than to ponder over the lame ones that were solely formulated to manipulate the position of World Powers? It's High time!
Non-Indians reading this blog try to understand and rectify! Indians reading this blog...please try to comfort the anguished families with a little prayer! That's all that's needed!
You all are aware of the recent...well wait! It's not recent, rather it's a prolonged episode! Anyways, we all know how Indian's (to be specific) are being tortured in Australia. Till now, there were cases of stabbing, injuries et all, but no life-loss, but during the recent days this phenomenon ( as I would like to call it) seems to have broken all barriers with its first victim! The aftermath, as we all see it, involves the two national police struggling over evidence and reports and the usual...the Governmental "talks"! But what the heck people, a life is lost and most importantly, a valued life!
Since we all know time began, migrations are an part of any nations existence. There are some countries in the world whose sole GDP depends on the population and quality of expatriates. I am able to confirm this because my dad is an NRI, but hey, whatever be the situation...it is the culture and mindset of any Indian to respect and honour the rules and regulations of any particular nation they go into. And is this the return we get for our simplicity?
I, being a student, can understand the pain n emotions attached with an opportunity to go abroad and study. I am not talking about settlement over there, as I am not personally in favour of that, but given the international platform of education, its really a life-time opportunity to go abroad and get skilled and exceptional exposure to a high level of education. From my childhood, I was taught that intellectuals all across the globe speak only a single language : talent and intelligence! But it seems this fact is really to good to be true! But it seems the age old classification of the globe into "certain" worlds still has a far-reaching influence on the minds of people. This is really sad. I mean we are talking about the modern age...where liberalization and most importantly globalization play an unnoticeable role of global integrity and economic development and this is how we repay others? Well...it may be an in-acceptable fact for others but this is true ( to the very core of the words) : Indians are to stay and rule!!!
I mean, be it the USA, the UK, the Middle East or any other part of the world, Indians are a part of their population...working population to be precise! The fact is that they gain from their knowledge and expertise. One can look into it in this manner as to the Gift of India to the World economy! But hey, its time man....time that if we are not treated with the respect we should be getting...its time we retaliate and claim it! I mean...comparing on the global scale...we are termed the Third World Country! But just give it a thought! Are we not socially superior to them? Are we not intellectually sane to not repeat with their counterparts in our nations....the way they do? All in all..can we say we are above them in all humane grounds?
But personally, I think we are at par! I believe the earth in a connected network wherein we humans can outgrow anything....provided we act in unison! I know this may sound a bit too "filmy" but hey, its my thinking and my blog and ours is a democratic nation! All I am trying to say is that we Indians have an ancestral quality to give and share and respect! Now this is a trait which is to be looked out for and valued....not tortured on racial basis! N F**K racism! This is the 21st century...and 2010! Isn't it time that we all looked out towards more ethical values...than to ponder over the lame ones that were solely formulated to manipulate the position of World Powers? It's High time!
Non-Indians reading this blog try to understand and rectify! Indians reading this blog...please try to comfort the anguished families with a little prayer! That's all that's needed!
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