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Thursday, October 29, 2009

I LOVE YOU MOM!

They say God couldn't be everywhere on this Earth, for everyone, at the very same moment. So, what's the solution? HE created MOTHERS (most commonly known as MOM in English, Maa in almost every language, and also other childish-peculiar names...but all outcomes of the most affectionate bondage on this Universe : Mother and Child LOVE).

Ever thought why "MAA" is common to almost each of the 180 languages and dialects in India, and thousands other throughout the entire world? A simple question, with a a very much anticipated answer - Because Mothers are universally the most divine being on Earth! But lets take it on a more analytical note. Don't you think each child being born on Earth and learning the same terminology is a bit too wild to call it a coincidence or an act of divinity? To be honest with you, I don't know the answer to this question. I also wouldn't completely rely on the vague answer of LOVE being the actual cause! I mean c'on this is a bit erratic to believe in this modern world. Any suggestions? Always Welcome!

Anyways...I not discussing the dialect factor here. But I am aiming at another much more simple, yet complex, factor: DO YOU LOVE YOUR MOM?

Let's admit to one simple thing first! The answer every would be giving to this question is : "What the F*CK dude? Of course I do! And what kind of a question is this? Very well. I am ready to take on all the accusations and other bad-verbal stuff ( I cannot go into this last detail :D). But for once, just give it a thought. When was the last time you offered to help your mom on your own? When was the last time you sat down to hear her grievances about the day's household? When was the last time you took a day off from your regular chat sessions with your friends just to be with your mom? When was the last time you hugged your mom? When was the last time you even told your mom about how much she meant to you in this whole world?

Well...there's this one element currently in circulation amongst us youngsters during recent times. Its the element of attitude. I mean, c'on man...its bloody understood that I love my mom the most! What's to say about that? Every body loves their mom. But just another simple question: What if this element comes into our mothers as well? They too start taking everything for granted and to be understood? What then?

Just go by the memory lane. On so-&-so day, you were born. You were brought into the arms of you mother. She hugged you, kissed you several hundred times. Even a tear rolling down her eye. To be honest, we all have experienced this, but at that moment, either we would have been crying or sleeping, too young and fragile to be understanding or even remembering that moment, which is the most precious moment of your mother's life. Cannot help it. It very biological for us to react in that way. Mom enjoyed that moment alone!

Take on a few years ahead. Your mom sees you walking on your wobbling little legs...trying to take the first steps of you life. She breaks down...either in the fear or seeing you hurt upon the fall or because of the uncontrollable amount or joy gushing through her heart. At that moment, we either would have been crying after the fall or we would have been giggling at mom. Too young to yet understand her feelings and emotions and share her joy. Its biological! Mom enjoyed yet another moment alone!

Lets move on. You get your first beating from mom. You cried...cried harder at the pain. We now know that it was much painful for mom at that moment. Both to be beating us as well as seeing us shed tears. That patch of semi-clotted blood under our cheeks, visible with a red mark from her eyes would definitely have clotted her own blood right in her heart. Its a moment not to be cherished, but still....mom suffered alone!

Now lets move to the recent years. We scored in our school exams well. Mom hugs us, we touch her feet...n then what, go out to celebrate with our friends. Again mom enjoys alone! We get admission in a reputed college....taking the first steps towards our professional establishment. We again touch her feet.....but this time...in haste! Why? for similar such reasons! Again Mom enjoys alone! We start spending quality time with our friends at college, arriving late at home. We come, freshen up, and then take up our daily work regime. This time, there's a change. Mom is alone for most of the time.

Well...its not that I am highlighting the negative aspect of our current generation, but we all do this in some way or the other and that too, sub-consciously. Its noticeable that right from our birth to our current years, mom has been ALONE! Either she enjoys alone, or she disgraces the moment alone. Funny isn't it?

Mothers are THE most supreme being. My dad always tell me that even if you go on an argument with me, countering my words and decisions, NEVER DO THAT WITH YOUR MOTHER! Now initially I thought it was an outcome of their Love-Marriage relation but with the years, I have realised the true meaning. You can despise GOD, BUT NOT YOUR MOTHER. Sole reason being she's the only person in the world ready to exchange lives for your sake. I mean this last line! During our early years, we couldn't understand her feelings and make it up to her. But what now? Do we not have that minimum sense about our duties towards her? Duties will be too formal word. But what I mean by this is that can't we share her love at this point of your lives? C'on guys...she's been alone for too long. And its time to give back rather than take!

How can we make it up to her mothers is a perception everybody has....and so I am not suggesting anything. All I am saying is that she won't be around for the rest of our lives. People usually have a bad habit about accrediting emotions after their time has lapsed. God forbid this happens to all of us. I am writing this because I feel doing something for my mother, even on the eve of my exam is a time not wasted, but time gained. Both time and love. Let's just say....I have realized...and I have started maKing up to her in my own ways! Through this...I just wanna say...Mom, I LOVE YOU! :)

Tuesday, October 27, 2009

Flirting, Flattering and Friendship - Qualities Across a Hairline!

"To be or not to be, that is the question". Lets alter this a bit : "To Flirt or to Flatter...That is the REAL Question"!

Whenever a girl meets a boy or vice-versa, the first and foremost thing one notices appreciably (which many refuse to admit for the sake of simplicity and respect) is the appearance! I mean c'on, everybody wants to talk an spend some quality time (not in any bad sense) with a good-looking opposite-sex species. Now after the names have been exchanged the conversation commences and the usual things crop up first. Something like I am so and so, where do you stay, what do you do, blah blah blah and so on. The two people in conversation are to some extent friendly now and the initial steps of a friendship gets carved out smoothly. Later on, meetings happen, followed by movies, hang outs, restaurants and so on. Both the parties have a fluctuating level of intimacy, which still requires a few more stuff to materialise.

Now arrives the interesting part: To flirt or to flatter? Lets admit a fact: everybody loves to flirt. I am not involving those people who are even shy to talk to girls or even those with ultra-high levels of social mannerisms and who simply do not believe in a pure friendship between opposite sexes. I mean, what's the harm in soft flirting? Or even a bit naughty flattering? This initially commences with say you have a cool hairstyle, you look good today, you have a lovely smile and all those 4th Grade stuff! This is to see whether the opponent is reacting in a positive or negative sense! Once the thing is seen, understood and commenced...now arrives the heavier dialogues: Sweetheart, you look quite sexy! Dear, lets hold hands...I mean we can do that in friendship right? Let's go out on a date...a friendly date ;) :D. Well...all these are really enjoyable and to some extent even worth it. I mean hey, if you are flirting or flattering with a friend, you always can flirt! What's the use of such a friendship where the two people are not even free to understand and communicate in that sense?? But actually...here lies the main catch, or to say...the main niche!


They are mainly two kinds of people....one's with a bad intention in everything and the other's just the opposite. Both groups exercise these jovial-cum-naughty modes of enjoyment but all that matters is their prime reason. There are guys and girls who change respective partners like morning dresses. There are also people who stick to one solely. I cannot comment on which group reigns because I have seen both in substantial numbers. However, this is not the matter of discussion The first group flirt with numerous charming and deceiving modes. Their aim...to hook up with the person...use...misuse...and then dump. I don't know why people call this dumping because hell, if you cannot identify the nature of the person, why say yes in the first place? And why blabber about being dumped later on? The element they employ is often termed flirting but people forget that they represent the darker side of that element. Flirting is not about deceiving and momentarily enjoying a person. It simply about appreciation in a good sense, represented with a slight pinch of naughtiness but with no bad intentions! Take for example the latter group people. They love to flirt. They too say naughty things, but they simply tease, not squeeze!
Well...but as per our verbal-daily vocabulary, they cannot be flirting! They are flattering! May I ask why??

Flattering is about saying something in order to raise that persons admiration with a slight sarcasm in mind! Flirting is pure!( I know this last line may be a bit negotiable but hey, this is my blog!) Flirting refers to appreciating the persons qualities in a naughty way. And believe me on this one, people who are good at heart, they never have any bad intentions in mind, its a personal experience!!! (:D) This is where the smooth blend of friendship, naughtiness and sexuality comes to light! See, they are all intertwined! I mean if you are very good friends with an opposite-sex member, why the hell not flirt? And if the other is flirting, why the hell threat with a crack in friendship?

However, leaving friendship aside, lets come to flirting and flattering. It's high time we realise the use of these words. If you are flirting, say it with dignity. I mean it! Why the hell be ashamed? You are not doing anything wrong. Neither do you have any bad intentions. If you are flattering, then use the correct term! Never mix up these things. But hey, one thing: those with a dirty mind, better don't admit! This puts a bad name to other, sincere, simple, gentle and serene flirts who are everything but you! I am not highlighting the grammatical factor in this blog, but I am simply trying to place my view in the minds of those people who consider flirts to be the kin of untouchables! First, those practising untouchability and other related stuff in any social regime, GO TO HELL! Second, judge the person by nature, attitude and personality, not by their verbal playfulness. Everyone knows looks can be deceiving. But I want to add something: so can be verbal attributions. This is actually modern hypocrisy, but don't bring all these amidst friendship! Friendship is pure, so is Flirting!!

Okay, the reason why I am writing this is because I am a big time flirt. But hey, I know my limits and myself. I would rather die than cheat on a girl! But all I am saying is that Flirting is not bad, trust me! It can be as pure as true friendship, but there's only a hairline difference to the perception. It is not regarding social stigma, but of the intention with which it is done! Hope You Understand and Agree! [;)]

Monday, October 26, 2009

What's in a NAME??

Every one's quite well-versed with this famous quote by William Shakespeare, so I guess there's no need in highlighting the historical background of this verse. Well, getting straight to the point, at that time, this stood out to be a magnanimous hit amongst the theatre crowds. The audiences loved it, cherished it and most importantly used it. But down the ages....only the usage has been constant, irrespective of the fact that the meaning of usage has been distorted to the maximum.

"What's in a Name?". Very very true! We all know that to judge a person, we have to look deep into their personality, highlighting both their positivities as well as their negativities and then...after looking into their educational and professional traits, we must use our own conscience and logic to save a file in our minds regarding our views on that person. To be proper and dignified men and women, we must all do this. And it's also true, by the universal law of nature, that the world too performs the same procedure when it comes to us. But what the hell? I mean does anybody really have the time to go through all this? Bunk it man! Just, see who the dude's dad is? What's the family bank balance? What is his social status as per the governmental classification levels? Just a glance! Give him what he deserves!! Moral : "What's in a Name?" Guess what? Now, it is Everything!!!!

Well...lets start with heavier topics. Take, say, education. Well...the 45% reservations for the ...uuummm....(you know which group of people I am talking about), is a sarcasm to generality. I mean, we...being the common masses...have to literally...BOW...before them. They have reserved seats...reserved jobs....hell...one day, they may even have reserved, first class toilets in the universities!! The fact that even after getting lucrative score cards from the professors with the least input levels, they flunk in the examinations is of no bother. But they must replace other deserving students! Why? C'on man....they are t-h-e backward masses (even though they are now superior to us in all senses). Take, say, product brands. Buy a jeans from the footpath.....hardly Rs.100 (even that is an escalating price to be paid for). Buy a jeans with a branded belt-tag...from an AC Showroom....minimum Rs. 1500...starting rates! Simplicity, eh? Take, say, qualification degrees! A person with a simple MA in hand, but with exceptional qualities like communications, marketing or PR skills rejected at an interview (even after having impresses the officials). Why? Not a Name-Fame University degree! But an MBA, with poor skills as compared to the first applicant gets passed immediately! Why? Hell man...he's got an MBA! Who needs the MA? And what does it matter if the other skills are not even comparable? Leave it! A bit controversial, with the perceptional view-point...but logically and practically..a bit insane, isn't it?

Well, I guess I am running out of examples but I hope you get the point! The Name's the Game, baby! You got a bright name beside you, or backing you, the world's at your feet! You do not have so, sorry....don't even dream of success!

This is the hypocrisy of the modern society where a person is judged or manipulated by names and not by worth! I mean, just give it a thought! The names' that carry considerable weight these days too were once a kitten in a jungle! Have you ever wondered why they grew up to be surviving Tigers? The problem lies here!! No one actually bothers to think upon this aspect and react accordingly. Too much waste of time! But if thought for the long run, it is actually not a waste of time. The simple answer to their success profiles is that they fought for their own names!

The backward masses fought with the government for reservations, the company brands fought with their business tactics for market dominance, the universities fought amongst themselves by promoting quality education and tough curriculum's, and so on goes the list! Basic is that if you want a piece of fame added to your name, you have to strive to carve out that little, initial niche! People back out at the first step because they think that the achievement is not so profitable. It is not so initially. But later one, the niche deepens...automatically and then begins the stride towards glory!

All in all....Shakespeare was right! "What's in a Name?". It is we who are wrong. We took it to be a metaphor, but it was actually an irony : "What's in a Name? Everything!"


Saturday, October 17, 2009

Friendship and Love...So Pure...Yet Bizzare!!

When you meet a person (I am considering the case of a female being) and initiate a bit of likeness regarding her, we opt for a relationship called "Friendship". The process commences with casual hi's and hello's and finally progesses to conversations, laughter, sarcasm, envy, happiness, joy, faith and all such other elements possible. The joy of to beings sharing and mingling freely with each other, cementing a platform of trust and faith, upon which either slowly or swiftly, the relation solidifies into a steady one. Next follows regular outings, either in groups or pairs - simple hangouts, movies, coffee, meetings. All in all, the bond between two people strengthens with all thes elements acting as either the catalyst or as a product of the entire social-biochemical equations.

But here arises my doubt. How does one define LOVE in friendship? It is the care you have for your friend? Is it simply a formality which is understood but never uttered? Or is it something different than those between couples? (The last one is definitely true...but to some extent, upon which I will come later).

Yes, I love my friend very very much. I also a aware that my friend loves me too. Then why are we always hesitant in saying the three magical word to our female-friends, even though we know that its simply pure friendship? Maybe, it is because the terminology "LOVE" is over-rated these days. This is my perception! We love our parents, relatives, friends, our soulmate. Practically, we "love" all these people. It just the extent of comfort and freedom we share with these people that brings about the difference.

Well, I believe in love-relationships among friends ( the lovers love one). I mean why not? Being a friend simply adds advantages to the possibility of a proposal being accepted or to become successful. You know each other from head to toe ( the personality part, no other meaning ;) ). Your families know and like each other. The only thing that is left to be tackled is the introduction of families. That is a long way down the road, the prima facia still remains whether friends can turn lovers or not.

Perception varies, and so does the attitude towards this topic. But still, no one can actually clear this cloud. The question remains unanswered, however tons of suggestions, possibilities and stuff like that crops up evry time. I mean, say you propose a girl with whom the relationship of friendship has been quite long, isnt it funny that all of a sudden, those three words become so influential upon those years of friendship? Its actually not funny, its shocking!! I mean, come'on! You propose only when you have some damn real feeling above friendship. Even before proposing, the fear of the friendship being lost too manipulates this decision and often acts as a counterpart to the elimination rounds in various examinations! So ultimately, if a friend receives a proposal, its has to be genuine!! Otherwise, either the friendship was brittle, or that person is really an asshole ( well, couldn't find a better word)!

Love means trust, respect and adjustments! These three automatically gets fulfilled is the proposal is from an old friend. Of course, the elements of a faint sexual attraction, looks and capabilites remain unaltered, but I will not discuss those as I know any dumbo, ugly guy would think about a million times before even asking a decent looking girl for friendship, let alone proposal! But of course, there's a crap statement saying : "Look's doesn't matter". Oh man! How lovely such an excuse it is to not to hurt a persons emotions after rejecting his love! But hey, deep down, we all know the basics!

Well, the purpose of me spending an evening to write all this on the eve of my examination is not so relevant, but this thought always has bothered me. Of course, a girl and a boy can definitely become friends, or best friends! That's the concept of modern opposite sex society. But can a love relationship among such persons can never really come into existence? I am baffled at some of the cases I get to see around me. So, guys, need some urgent suggestions. And if you have read it, its my personal urfe to you guys that at least think about it if you are one of those you-are-only-my-friend-cannot-become-my-boyfriend types, then at least give it a thought!

Tuesday, January 13, 2009

Childhood Days!

Sometimes, things happen or rather incidents occus in our daily life that constanly resemble our childhood actions. The result is a sole feeling : missing the childhood childishness. This is what i felt on my 17th birthday :

Striding down the memory lane,
Journeying deep into my mind’s veins,
Only to realize the fact
That I have ,in all, one year of childhood left- to be exact.
Partly delighted, partly appalled,
I continued to gaze at the star lit sky,
And thinking about my innocent past,
I broke into a smile.


Those days of immense notoriety,
Those days of spotless serenity,
That feeling of being free from any anxiety,
That feeling of being secured from any adversity,
Those were the days of my life,
When I enjoyed while others helped me survive.
I used to curse my small height,
Wishing I could grow tall soon.
I used to grumble upon my ignorance,
Like a total fool.
I used to stare at the long sleek boots,
Thinking when would I be able to wear them,
But now, at the dawn of my adulthood,
I just pray if I could go back,
If I could just enjoy one more hour of play,
If I could just experience one more day of my childhood.


So here I am.
On the climax of adolescence, I am standing
Partly elated, partly repenting,
To the thought that I have just one more year of childhood left and still counting!

Sunday, January 11, 2009

ROAD

(Let's just say...this is what I see, what I feel, while travelling on a Road)

Some consider it a mere asphalt bed,
For others…it’s a lifeless platform of steel, concrete n lead,
To me, though, it’s a support stage,
A firm path upon which we tread….

An endless spiral, with myriad loops and twirls,
A shiny serpent during the day which at night, shines like a black pearl...
For some, it’s a mere trail to traverse and travel,
Others consider it a filthy path, a dull continuity of gravel,
But for me…it’s a destiny-bridge, that has loads to unravel,
Be it a journey, or a hike….like life, its hurdles strips us to reality navel.

With every milestone, novelty meets the eye,
With every yard…nature appears different, the sky sporting a different dye,
With each piece of rock, as you move on, saying bye…
Let’s just say that imagination grows, to be true…without a lie.
To me, a road is a path for sure,
A magnanimous gravel snake, on which we learn to, in our life, endure.
To me, it’s a bridge on ground…
That links places, people and cultures newly found.
To me, it’s like an asphalt stream,
Flowing endlessly amongst concrete and natural jungles, with a steady seam…
To me, it’s like journey with a friend,
Guiding and leading, helping me to, my gaps, mend.


It’s always the way you visualize and see,
A road maybe a lifeless blend and some just let it be…
But the sparkle adds when you tend to think,
Imagination and acceptance, that’s what makes life blink,
So all in all, this is the view of my eye,
For me, a road mends gaps…serves as an ally…
It lives in its own way… and to be true, without a lie,
It’s only for you to accept and visualize.