Friendship and Love...So Pure...Yet Bizzare!!

When you meet a person (I am considering the case of a female being) and initiate a bit of likeness regarding her, we opt for a relationship called "Friendship". The process commences with casual hi's and hello's and finally progesses to conversations, laughter, sarcasm, envy, happiness, joy, faith and all such other elements possible. The joy of to beings sharing and mingling freely with each other, cementing a platform of trust and faith, upon which either slowly or swiftly, the relation solidifies into a steady one. Next follows regular outings, either in groups or pairs - simple hangouts, movies, coffee, meetings. All in all, the bond between two people strengthens with all thes elements acting as either the catalyst or as a product of the entire social-biochemical equations.

But here arises my doubt. How does one define LOVE in friendship? It is the care you have for your friend? Is it simply a formality which is understood but never uttered? Or is it something different than those between couples? (The last one is definitely true...but to some extent, upon which I will come later).

Yes, I love my friend very very much. I also a aware that my friend loves me too. Then why are we always hesitant in saying the three magical word to our female-friends, even though we know that its simply pure friendship? Maybe, it is because the terminology "LOVE" is over-rated these days. This is my perception! We love our parents, relatives, friends, our soulmate. Practically, we "love" all these people. It just the extent of comfort and freedom we share with these people that brings about the difference.

Well, I believe in love-relationships among friends ( the lovers love one). I mean why not? Being a friend simply adds advantages to the possibility of a proposal being accepted or to become successful. You know each other from head to toe ( the personality part, no other meaning ;) ). Your families know and like each other. The only thing that is left to be tackled is the introduction of families. That is a long way down the road, the prima facia still remains whether friends can turn lovers or not.

Perception varies, and so does the attitude towards this topic. But still, no one can actually clear this cloud. The question remains unanswered, however tons of suggestions, possibilities and stuff like that crops up evry time. I mean, say you propose a girl with whom the relationship of friendship has been quite long, isnt it funny that all of a sudden, those three words become so influential upon those years of friendship? Its actually not funny, its shocking!! I mean, come'on! You propose only when you have some damn real feeling above friendship. Even before proposing, the fear of the friendship being lost too manipulates this decision and often acts as a counterpart to the elimination rounds in various examinations! So ultimately, if a friend receives a proposal, its has to be genuine!! Otherwise, either the friendship was brittle, or that person is really an asshole ( well, couldn't find a better word)!

Love means trust, respect and adjustments! These three automatically gets fulfilled is the proposal is from an old friend. Of course, the elements of a faint sexual attraction, looks and capabilites remain unaltered, but I will not discuss those as I know any dumbo, ugly guy would think about a million times before even asking a decent looking girl for friendship, let alone proposal! But of course, there's a crap statement saying : "Look's doesn't matter". Oh man! How lovely such an excuse it is to not to hurt a persons emotions after rejecting his love! But hey, deep down, we all know the basics!

Well, the purpose of me spending an evening to write all this on the eve of my examination is not so relevant, but this thought always has bothered me. Of course, a girl and a boy can definitely become friends, or best friends! That's the concept of modern opposite sex society. But can a love relationship among such persons can never really come into existence? I am baffled at some of the cases I get to see around me. So, guys, need some urgent suggestions. And if you have read it, its my personal urfe to you guys that at least think about it if you are one of those you-are-only-my-friend-cannot-become-my-boyfriend types, then at least give it a thought!