Flirting, Flattering and Friendship - Qualities Across a Hairline!

"To be or not to be, that is the question". Lets alter this a bit : "To Flirt or to Flatter...That is the REAL Question"!

Whenever a girl meets a boy or vice-versa, the first and foremost thing one notices appreciably (which many refuse to admit for the sake of simplicity and respect) is the appearance! I mean c'on, everybody wants to talk an spend some quality time (not in any bad sense) with a good-looking opposite-sex species. Now after the names have been exchanged the conversation commences and the usual things crop up first. Something like I am so and so, where do you stay, what do you do, blah blah blah and so on. The two people in conversation are to some extent friendly now and the initial steps of a friendship gets carved out smoothly. Later on, meetings happen, followed by movies, hang outs, restaurants and so on. Both the parties have a fluctuating level of intimacy, which still requires a few more stuff to materialise.

Now arrives the interesting part: To flirt or to flatter? Lets admit a fact: everybody loves to flirt. I am not involving those people who are even shy to talk to girls or even those with ultra-high levels of social mannerisms and who simply do not believe in a pure friendship between opposite sexes. I mean, what's the harm in soft flirting? Or even a bit naughty flattering? This initially commences with say you have a cool hairstyle, you look good today, you have a lovely smile and all those 4th Grade stuff! This is to see whether the opponent is reacting in a positive or negative sense! Once the thing is seen, understood and commenced...now arrives the heavier dialogues: Sweetheart, you look quite sexy! Dear, lets hold hands...I mean we can do that in friendship right? Let's go out on a date...a friendly date ;) :D. Well...all these are really enjoyable and to some extent even worth it. I mean hey, if you are flirting or flattering with a friend, you always can flirt! What's the use of such a friendship where the two people are not even free to understand and communicate in that sense?? But actually...here lies the main catch, or to say...the main niche!


They are mainly two kinds of people....one's with a bad intention in everything and the other's just the opposite. Both groups exercise these jovial-cum-naughty modes of enjoyment but all that matters is their prime reason. There are guys and girls who change respective partners like morning dresses. There are also people who stick to one solely. I cannot comment on which group reigns because I have seen both in substantial numbers. However, this is not the matter of discussion The first group flirt with numerous charming and deceiving modes. Their aim...to hook up with the person...use...misuse...and then dump. I don't know why people call this dumping because hell, if you cannot identify the nature of the person, why say yes in the first place? And why blabber about being dumped later on? The element they employ is often termed flirting but people forget that they represent the darker side of that element. Flirting is not about deceiving and momentarily enjoying a person. It simply about appreciation in a good sense, represented with a slight pinch of naughtiness but with no bad intentions! Take for example the latter group people. They love to flirt. They too say naughty things, but they simply tease, not squeeze!
Well...but as per our verbal-daily vocabulary, they cannot be flirting! They are flattering! May I ask why??

Flattering is about saying something in order to raise that persons admiration with a slight sarcasm in mind! Flirting is pure!( I know this last line may be a bit negotiable but hey, this is my blog!) Flirting refers to appreciating the persons qualities in a naughty way. And believe me on this one, people who are good at heart, they never have any bad intentions in mind, its a personal experience!!! (:D) This is where the smooth blend of friendship, naughtiness and sexuality comes to light! See, they are all intertwined! I mean if you are very good friends with an opposite-sex member, why the hell not flirt? And if the other is flirting, why the hell threat with a crack in friendship?

However, leaving friendship aside, lets come to flirting and flattering. It's high time we realise the use of these words. If you are flirting, say it with dignity. I mean it! Why the hell be ashamed? You are not doing anything wrong. Neither do you have any bad intentions. If you are flattering, then use the correct term! Never mix up these things. But hey, one thing: those with a dirty mind, better don't admit! This puts a bad name to other, sincere, simple, gentle and serene flirts who are everything but you! I am not highlighting the grammatical factor in this blog, but I am simply trying to place my view in the minds of those people who consider flirts to be the kin of untouchables! First, those practising untouchability and other related stuff in any social regime, GO TO HELL! Second, judge the person by nature, attitude and personality, not by their verbal playfulness. Everyone knows looks can be deceiving. But I want to add something: so can be verbal attributions. This is actually modern hypocrisy, but don't bring all these amidst friendship! Friendship is pure, so is Flirting!!

Okay, the reason why I am writing this is because I am a big time flirt. But hey, I know my limits and myself. I would rather die than cheat on a girl! But all I am saying is that Flirting is not bad, trust me! It can be as pure as true friendship, but there's only a hairline difference to the perception. It is not regarding social stigma, but of the intention with which it is done! Hope You Understand and Agree! [;)]