Do I "EXPECT" Something? Yes!!!

Okay, let me clear the air first and foremost. The topic is not at all related to love relations and that sort. Infact, its on another aspect of friendship...a very elementary yet a pretty much disclaimed aspect : EXPECTATIONS!

Expectations...the very first sound of this word rings a hypocritical bell in our minds which, though aware of the existence of the silliest of all expectations we keep from others, tells us not to admit it. Why? Well, this is where the irony lies. In order to keep up with the present generation-friendship, the dialogue "I don't expect anything from my friends!" is quite verbal regaring almost everybody. Why we do it? The answer varies from person to person, but the overall conception is that we behave as if we are complete self-centred and that nothing in this entire world can affect us! I wish this was true, but I guess it is not.

Friendship is a feeling that is to be enjoyed, shared and lived. There are times in our lives when we meet somebody with whom the intimacy clicks on from the very moment. This phenomenon can even take time, but at the end, it all boils down to one universal law - True friendship is like gold. If pure, it will glitter. If its an imitation, it rusts away! But here, I am not highlighting the friendship definition aspect, but solely certain feelings, rather side-effects, associated!

True friends care, console, confront, respect and at the very same time hurt the most. But have you ever given it a thought that is we are "supposed" to be so naive and self-centered, how can anybody even affect us to a scratch? Strange, but this is where the existence of "Expectations" get proved! We often hear that one must never keep expectations in order to stay happy always. Theoretically, its possible to the extremity. But practically, at the Human level, this is not at all possible. I mean, think it for a second guys. What good a friend is if you cannot claim certain things regarding that person? I am not talking about traits and characteristics but simply certain actions which is obvious in a relation like this. I mean imagine, you have a close friend. But you do not expect anything from him/her, regarding any matter! Strange, isn't it?

People claiming non-expectancy behaviour may claim so under certain circumstances. But deep down, everybody knows what they want. This is where the entire irony lies! People forget that this is not a give-n-take scheme but simple a mutual understanding where things do happen on accord, but certain aspects are understood! We all maybe aware of the prior part, but it is the latter we overlook. In our entire lifetime, we meet a hell lotta people. But out of them, a handful get picked as close, caring and faithful friends. If we even cannot fulfill their tiniest of all expectancies, what's of use of claiming such a friendship?

The entire reason for writing this blog was that I needed to express myself. I feel that this topic is quite closely associated with my own life, in certain aspects, but hey, no hard grudges. Its just a mode of expression (I mean c'on, we are the citizens of the largest democracy). You may agree, or disagree with my perception (comments always welcome), but I thought that this thing is mainly responsible for fall-out between friends, which is quite bad. All I have to say is that be honest to your friend. If you cannot fulfill an expectation, say it. If you have certain expectation, admit it! The closeness simply gets aggravated, and not embarrassment. Believe me, try it! It helps a lot (personal experience you see :D)